Nostalgia

I've been pondering how times change. My mom had a friend she met in grade school. They were friends through their whole lives up until the time the friend passed away a few years ago. Oh sure, they moved away but they always kept in touch and visited and shared major life events. I wonder how many people anymore still have friends from college, let alone high school or childhood. How many people have friendships that survive even a decade anymore? And then I think of all of the people who have found each other after 20 or more years due to being able to track people down via the internet... and with social networking sites, this task becomes even easier sometimes.

I found a friend from high school (who is really the only person from that high school I care to speak to) and we keep in touch. I've run into a few other people (the ex-husband popping up after 15 years was maybe not so welcome). Some of the people I've reconnected with it seems like no time at all has passed. We picked up where we left off, we had similar life experiences, we resumed a friendship. Others, we sortve discovered all of the reasons that we drifted apart in the first place and really have no common ground. A few others, I find myself questioning whether they ever cared about me as I did them. I suppose that the answer could very honestly be "no". And I have one person I really tried to reconnect with, really WANTED to reconnect with and her husband intercepted the communication and will not allow me to contact her (I have no freakin' idea what's up there, but it bothers me, since I introduced them)

Nostalgia can be fun. It can also be frustrating. There are a couple of people I'll continue looking for because I am curious about what's gone on since "once upon a time". As time goes on, the opportunities will wane. I've all but given up on finding my biological parents since I don't have money to sink into searching but I do periodically still search the reunion boards out of curiousity. But I spend more time looking forward than back and close doors when I know that it's time. That's sometimes been a very difficult life lesson to learn... But there are alot of people out there to meet and some will come into my life and stay and others will move on all too swiftly and I can't be looking back and miss the opportunities that lie ahead